Our Struggles

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Sounds perfect Wahhhh, I don’t wanna

Anonymous asked:

I'm nonbinary and after two years of searching, I finally found a name I like, but the moment I told one of my closest friends that, he went "yeah... I'm still gonna call you _____" which really hurt me. I mean, he's not the best of people, but I've been friends with him for a long time, how do I get him to call me by the right name?

In my eyes, it’s either he gets his shit together and does it or you gotta drop him like a hot potato, even though that sounds very harsh and also is a very hard thing to do. Explain to him that he’s being a dickhead and making you feel like shit by doing what he is, and that you wouldn’t like to but that you will stop talking to him if he continues to make you uncomfortable.
People who purposely do something that you asked them not to are not worth your time and certainly aren’t good for you to keep around. If they really liked you as much as you deserved they should at least try.

Anonymous asked:

Hey, I know this might not be the blog to ask but URGENT is it safe for me to take full body spanx (like from chest to thigh like a tight slimming dress) and fold it up over my chest to bind? It doesn’t hurt and I can breathe fine in them, I’m just not sure if it will cause problems?? I want to wear it and bind at school but I’m scared

Hey, sorry this is a very late reply probably as I have been offline for ages due to personal life. I’m gonna reply anyways for other people wondering.
First of all, it is only ever 100% safe to bind with a binder of the right size, and then never for too long. Everything else can always potentially be damaging.
Still, I know that many people want to Bind regardless, due to not being able to buy a binder. Shape wear should be okay for that, if worn like intended. If you feel comfortable and have no (!!!!) restriction in breathing, you could fold it over once, but not at all more. And do not wear it for too long.
Over all, I think the best alternative would be to go for a sports bra, I used to put them on backwards so the stretchy over the chest part was in the back and the sturdier material in front.
Please bind safely guys, I don’t want anyone of you hurt.

I’m an ftm guy and the “only daughter“. Forever I felt guilty just for being myself because my parents would always say how happy they were to have a daughter, but I wasnt that. So if youre trans or non-binary and you feel this way, you shouldn’t...

I’m an ftm guy and the “only daughter“. Forever I felt guilty just for being myself because my parents would always say how happy they were to have a daughter, but I wasnt that. So if youre trans or non-binary and you feel this way, you shouldn’t have to feel guilty for being yourself.You cant help who you are or how you feel. And I’m sorry you have to go through the same thing.

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Anonymous asked:

It's ironic being a feminine ftm nonbinary person that the last thing I hate is actually my body. I'm still menstruating, I still have boobs, I have a quite feminine shape on top of being short (5'0"), deadnamed aaalll the time but I almost never offended by that??? Idk probably I'm just a transtrender or smth smh am I really trans!?!? If anything I'm actually more scared of the restrictive male gender norms, I hate the fact that I can't ACT like a man more than my body looks and I dont want T!

I’m very sorry that I can’t actually tell you what you are, but to me you sound pretty sure of your own gender so that’s a good start! What I can tell you though is that you don’t need to hate your body to be trans, don’t need to take hormones, and you also don’t need to act super manly! Me for example, I’m a super flamboyant person that is usually seen as feminine when I’m being open and in a good mood. I also don’t wanna be grouped in with the expectation for the basic white boy™ or the predatory male and am scared that one day, people will take me as that. It’s not a bad thing to not wanna be a norm!

Anonymous asked:

I use diff pronouns and name but I was talking about me being a Demiboy but the other person said that I'm just being stupid and is just trans bc I prefer to use a more masculine name for me ?? Am I trans??

Here’s one thing I like to say when I hear that people doubt themselves due to others: Remember that you are not invalid just because someone says you are. Just because they don’t think being demiboy exists, or that “you dont present right” doesn’t mean you can’t be one. Being nonbinary, being a demiboy, being a gender, doesn’t look or act a certain way. Only you can tell what you really are, but if you feel that something is right for you, nobody else should be able to tell you it isn’t. So proudly continue to identify as what you feel and Fuck what everyone else thinks.

Anonymous asked:

Hi. So I think I'm genderfluid because sometimes I feel masculine and other times I feel feminine but when I ask myself what gender I am I'm like I don't know. Would that make me a gender? Also in order to be a gender do you not have any gender specific qualities or can you identify with no gender but still have masculine and feminine qualities? Is masculine/feminine different than gender. I think I might be agender

Hey fella! It sounds like you very well May be agender, because it’s exactly what it says it is: not feeling like you have a gender. Which way you like to present is totally irrelevant, there’s females who present masculine or androgynous, males who present feminine, nonbinaries who present masculine… you name it! What you like to wear or act like doesn’t influence your gender. But if you would want to identify as genderfluid, that’s totally fine too. Do what makes you happy.

Hey, I hope to be back!

I know, I’ve been absent for quite some time. It’s been for a lot of reasons that are mostly uninteresting probably. But now I really want to post your questions and confessions again, so I’m gonna start out queuing some things up again :) let’s hope I can keep it up.
Also, damn, I can’t believe it’s become So many of you since I was on last! I kinda feel like I’m the parent in 101 dalmatians. ~Val